I’ve had many ask for pageant advice. Recently a social media friend, asked if I’d help her with her onstage performance. Because I believe in supporting those that have supported you, and frankly because I just don’t have the time to take on a “coaching gig” I strongly encouraged her to go to the sponsored coach. 1- that’s what she’s there for, 2- obviously qualified, and 3- I’ve been on the winning side of things and would feel completely uncomfortable accepting a sponsored package from someone if I had the “ability” to hire them and chose not too. Just unethical in my opinion. Now there’s a gazillion special cases: if they’re NOT qualified, biased, or can’t provide you all that YOU need, that’s a whole different topic for later. So needless to say, I pointed her in the right path.
Come to find out the reaction of someone when this friend told her that she really wanted me to help her, was “what makes her qualified!?”
I simply rolled my eyes and moved on… to each is own, right?
Recently I was unpacking my new home and I came across this visual….. and this thought came back to mind. I realized just then, WHAT makes ME qualified!
Experience. YEARS of Hard work. That turned into SUCCESS, and not overnight! Thats what people don’t get. Nothing comes overnight.
Not only have I won a prestigious international title, I’ve placed top 3 in “The Big 3” as a Mrs.! International, America, and United States! I’ve won a CHALLENGING and VERY competitive state title not once but TWICE against more than 50 qualified contestants! I compete WHEN there is COMPETITION, not when numbers are low. When odds are AGAINST me, when there is never an easy gain, when there is a challenge to push me out of MY comfort zone. That’s when I’ve had HONOR of capturing a title, then serving it with pride.
Not to mention, I entered the pageant ring back in the days when you’d compete at your state pageant with over 300+ QUALIFIED contestants that ALL had won a preliminary. When our state USA Pageant was on TV with a celebrity as your state host! (ahhh, those were the days!Fun! Just fun, without all the social media FLUFF making people and life “more”). When I started competing, I didn’t have much, my grandma signed me up before she passed, she’s helped raise me so she like my mom, felt that I was the greatest thing since sliced bread (like every mom, right?). I was never in heels, had no idea what a pageant was or “all” it involved! I had no money, NEVER even HEARD of a coach or all the “extras.” I cared more about slam dunks than high heels and make up, but … I needed scholarship and they were offering it, so I entered. Skinny, little string bean me, self-concious, naive me ended up taking top 5 in a premier USA preliminary against over 300+ contestants in less than a $100 dress! Against seasoned girls, “coached” girls, girls that had the means and support and KNEW what they were doing! This lead into a passion. That has helped me in so many ways, gosh- if I could tell the old me what I know and have learned now!
Unpacking brings back so many memories. I was unpacking my crown boxes, by the way I LOVE my collection of cases, their actually helmet cases and work PERFECTLY for crowns too! Many ask what do you do with them after… this! Check them out! My office is VERY sparkly! 😉
Yea, what does one do when they hang up their heels! They buy a box to display their sparkly hard work in to admire in their office (as they type … like now)
Yea, I get side tracked but wanted to share my good find because their half the price of crown boxes and work perfectly on a shelf! I get them online and they have ALL sorts of different sizes to fit all crowns! My favorite is the the ones with mirror glass:
I continue to unpack and came across some unpublished blogs from my year as Mrs. International and I got to think how I actually enjoyed the written blogs. (not the video! I’m pushing 40 so videotaping myself just feels odd to me, I dunno maybe it’s a generation thing, just feels weird) I enjoyed expressing myself and sharing an inside scope. So I began to think. Why not!
This brings me to now! A girlfriend of mine came to my house, loved my new decor, and said you should really consider doing a blog, with decor, and just life. I’m always that friend sharing where she got that dress, or how I decorated or planned my sons party, etc. Well, I have no idea how to professionally decorate nor am I a master at life, but I do know how to make things look like I envision. So I kicked it around for a few weeks. I still have absolutely no interest in coaching but know I do WANT to share a little insight, not let this 20 years of hard work and hustle to be left aside, I want to use it to tell the old me the ins and the outs I wish I would’ve known. Because ONE thing I’m MOST thankful for in pageantry is that it brought me full circle! In my platform and my life! It gave me the confidence over the YEARS to be proud of being “ME”, in shame and honor. One factor this photo sums up is the hard work I’VE put in over the last 20 Years! And I wouldn’t be ME If I didn’t give back to what’s given me so much … because that’s just what I do!
So welcome to @momqueen my way to give back FREELY the years and experience of allot of success and hard work in the pageant world as Mrs.!
And share all things mom, life, and well sparkle!
There it is, I did it! I officially did it my first “Sparkle” blog. Next up… some Strength!