Everyone and every couple could use a quick break.
No matter what you do, no matter how many kids you have, every couple forgets sometimes the only reason all these things they have to do and the reason they work so hard is because two people fell in love and created a life of stress and responsibility.
We tend to forget that one person and put that relationship AFTER everyone and everything on our back burner.
This is not good after time and takes it’s toll on everyone in the relationship, including the kids.
For those that don’t know our lives:
My husband runs a global manufacturing business with factories and people all over the world. Not only is he responsible for making sure the 400 people that rely on him for a job to support and feed their families, he also has the stress of working with his own family to provide us all a comfortable life. The stress of running, growing, and maintaining the future of this crazy business he’s responsible for every day at his age is more than most can handle. It’s insane. Some days I just don’t know how he does it.
Me on the other hand, I’m also responsible for a family business I run a real estate property management brokerage and maintain over 40 houses and some commercial property every day, not to mention the 2 of my own. The amount of insurance agents, taxes, renter problems, rent rolls, and the worst part … maintaining all the maintenance issues for SO many houses. Remembering which is for what house and keeping up is tough and gets crazy. Not to mention running the everyday responsibilities of mom life with two active kids is a job in itself. I do the blog and boutique as a passion because its my decompression and well my hubby, he finds his happy in the gym and since he’s not always with the kids he spends his decompressing time with what he loves, the kids.
This is all generally put, the people in our lives can vouch for the amount of stress and responsibility in our daily lives, is nuts, and can really take a toll on us. US as a couple, because without noticing everyday it can put US in the habit of putting US last.
All this stress and responsibility only takes from us, and the kids. We’re great at putting back to the kids with family vacations and weekends spending all our time giving to the kids, but we don’t put enough time as we used to into US.
This week my husband had some work in Vegas, and coincidentally I had an opportunity in Vegas for the Sparkle division of Mom Queen, so we took advantage of some time to US. HE realized I needed a break, HE needed a break, WE needed a break. Away from work, at least the physical office space because he’s still really working as I am too but it’s good to step out of routine. Away from the kids. Away from the grind, stress, and distractions.
Time to be us. Time to reconnect without SO many distractions. Every couple needs, time. Time to put each other first and put into their relationship. A little get away to have dinner with just the two of us.
Funny while we were out last night we ran into another couple just doing the same. They have two little girls and own a business themselves in Georgia. He’s here for work, but they are taking advantage of the time to take a little break for them. They are here for more than the 48 hrs we are, but what made me write this blog this morning is her comment to me yesterday.
“It’s funny because we forget how to be around each other, how to be a couple, it takes us a day to actually get back to getting used to seeing each other more than an 2-3 hours a day… to get used to holding hands again with out the awkwardness because we’re not used to be around each other that much.”
She works with her husband as well, as I do but it’s funny, we never really see each other. The evenings our time and attention is centered around the kids and our weekends consist of so many people around were never alone.
Made me realize and agree this was needed and were not the only ones. This 48 hours of putting us first was is needed. Needed more often.
Enjoying this small little break, even though we’re both working, it’s nice to sit at a dinner table with just US.
If you haven’t taken time lately to pour back in your marriage, into you without all your everyday stress and distractions, it’s never to late to realize NOW is better than ever. It makes that person FEEL your just as important as every other aspect in your life.
Everyone needs to FEEL wanted.
I hope you spend some of your day today feeling wanted, feeling important in some way by the one who loves you. If not maybe it’s time to take a break and step away from some of the stress.
Happy FRIDAY Mom Queens!