Some sparkle to start your weekend…
2019 has began and it stirs up everyone’s fitness goals. I was reading this past weekend that the typical resolution last approximately 20 days until the hype fades. But if your planning on competing in a pageant or starting a new venture in 2019, you tend to really take it more seriously and past the hype. Your pumped and kicked into high gear and committed at least until your journey begins or your feet hit the stage.
I was one that prepares like no other. I take things seriously and I give it my all… always. No regrets. All in. So it’s very time consuming and can be mentally challenging. I feel I’m stronger mentally than physically, so I was OK with consuming all my spare time preparing. I was only OK because in my heart I was REALLY OK WITH LOSING. Period.
I’ve always stayed active in the organizations that I’ve had the honor or representing. United States, America, International, even as a MISS back in USA days. I’ve always showed up after the fact.
I help in mock interviewing to get the girls ready, I judge state and preliminaries, I attend events and workshops, and even help my successors with any advice and support in any way I can to help their journey far succeed mine.
When it comes to crowning my successors, I’ve been pretty honored in my days of crowning some true beauties inside and out! I’ve been a proud big pageant sister, my littles have rocked! They’ve rocked the national stage, their reigns, and their beauty shines through their character, even today.
One of my successors was stressed from the long week at nationals and I gave her my best piece of advice. The reason I think I’ve done so well in my years. I explained to her probably not what she wanted to hear at the moment but what her heart needed.
It’s OK if you DON’T WIN because they key of having it all ..is knowing you already do!
You see she like me, has everything she already needs in life. An amazingly blessed life! A beautiful and healthy family, a successful husband that adores her, a thriving career, list goes on. No crown was going to make or break that.
There was nothing that experience or crown was going to give her that she currently didn’t or couldn’t have with or without it. This is key for everyone to realize.
I advised her before she walked out on the stage to take a good mental picture of those things. Her kids, hubby, the amazing life she already owned. Let those fulfill her. It didn’t matter at the end of the day the outcome, because the truth is, IT needed her more than SHE needed it! The sun will still rise and set the next day, life will still go on, and all these wonderful things that are already there will still be there after.
I’ve seen it a million times over, girls preparing so hard, it almost like possess them. Then when they lose they literally LOSE it! In one way or another. They get so wrapped up in this, that it affects their LIVES and their mental state so much that it is not healthy! Heck before I had a family, I used to do it to myself preparing, before I realized this truth.
It makes me wonder when I see some girls hyper focus so much on preparing for a pageant that they put their families second, their jobs second, their relationships second, their lives on hold pretty much for … what? Is there something missing in their lives that some void has to be filled? What is winning really going to bring someone that they already can’t have without?
To me I enjoy watching someones journey preparing, more than I enjoy a crowing moment. Shows how serious they are taking it or how crazy they really are. 😉 When watching someone’s journey then seeing them on stage SHINE, I think their SHINE naturally comes from the comfort within themselves. Being PROUD of their journey but really BEING OK IF THEY LOSE because they know they really don’t need it to complete them. Sometimes, That’s when you start winning I feel, in more ways than one.
So if your preparing to SPARKLE in 2019 this little piece of advice can make the world of difference. Prepare to crush your goals, prepare if you have nothing to lose, because you really don’t. Honestly. Think about that. Are you really OK with losing?
Happy Friday Mom Queens!