For the entire past week I’ve been in Charleston, WV for the International Pageants Pre Teen International Competition.
My first national Pre Teen experience and my first experience as a ”Pre Teen Mom/Chaperone”… Oh my goodness, am I exhausted and ready to go home! 😉 lol
I brought a week full of work to get done with me, and I didn’t get a chance to open my laptop once!
I have all boys, so this has been a WHOLE NEW journey for me.
My niece Renee from Thailand signed up to represent Thailand as Miss Pre Teen Thailand International.
From dress shopping to paperwork, to International packing, touching up her hair and makeup, watching her in rehearsals, chaperoning her during events, carrying her things all around Charleston, so much more really gave me the FULL ”pageant mom” experience!
And let me just tell you it’s more exhausting being a ”pageant mom” than competing myself. Totally! ;)-
I’m so proud of Renee though!! Seriously!! Stepping completely out of her comfort zone at 12 YEARS OLD out of her country, away from her immediate family, with girls that don’t speak her primary language, knowing no one prior, her first US pageant not knowing what the heck to expect, with a 13 hour time change, and flying 30 hours to even get here! Is just the beginning!
This girl woke up for 5am wake up calls with not one complaint, especially with Jet Lag, and a 13 hour time change. While girls were resting Renee made diagrams of her walking patterns. Her character simply amazes me! Not once did she get grouchy or snappy like a normal pre teen that I did see :/, These mommas really have to work in all areas! Lol
When she walked in she was truly at home with these girls, that is what amazed me the most. She fit in like she went to school with all these girls all her life. You can totally tell she was thankful for the experience. Getting dressed up and pretty in hair and make up and just the chance to be there, with these girls, you can tell she was honored.
She was simply stunning in every way and I couldn’t have been more proud to be her chaperone. I’m one proud Aunt/cousin. She simply amazed me and was beautiful inside and out all weekend.
Watching these Pre Teens this past week was really nice! A lot of us big SPARKLE girls can really learn from the pure innocence and inexperience of the Little SPARKLE girls.
Genuinely how when one walks into the room and every other one around runs up to her to hug her and tell her how much they love her dress or compliment her in some way.
When if there’s one standing by herself you’ll immediately see another go up to her and start a conversation.
How they include every girl in the extras and how they really do look up to each other and want the best for their sister as much as they do for themselves.
The older a SPARKLE girl gets we get more focused on the end than the journey. We forget to have FUN.
The older we get the more competitive natured we become and our years and experiences in the SPARKLE world can really tarnish the friendships and true aspect of the greatest benefit of pageantry. We start to compete against each other and only focus on the end prize.
I’ll never forget my first year competing at Mrs. America in 2009 I remember the owner saying at our orientation ”If your here to win than you are here for the wrong reason.” I prepared and competed as if I was there to win. I did LOOSE and most importantly I LOST the experience because of this. I didn’t even place that time, I’m fortunate I won my state title again and had the opportunity to go back and use this as my philosophy. I made sure I enjoyed and had FUN the next time. I enjoyed the EXPERIENCE so much more! I met new friends, and actually did a lot better, I placed runner up. Things happen for you when you have the right intentions I feel.
Another thing I noticed is different that can change over the years is there’s no preconceived notions of a SPARKLE sister. I’ve been on both sides of this through my years in the SPARKLE world. Girls letting other girls feelings, emotions, and experiences prevent them from actually getting to know someone.
My best advice ever is don’t let this happen! Get to know people and give them a chance through your own happenings. Don’t let the possibility of a future friendship not happen because your current friend competed with a girl before and had their own ”story” on them. Remember they COMPETED against each other!! Hello!! There are always two sides to every story, not just one. Then somewhere in the middle…there is the truth and most likely neither of them are bad. Sometimes we just let the negative aspects of pagentry get the best of us on both ends. Odds are if we/you are both SPARKLE girls, we’re all good people of inner and outer beauty! We probably have more in common than you think! Don’t let a SPARKLE sisters experience with another one determine yours!
I’ve been on both sides of this and if I would have listened to one I probably wouldn’t have one or some of my very good girlfriends I have now, and I’m sure them the same.
If you’ve been a SPARKLE for a little while wether a Teen, Miss, Mrs or what have you…do yourself a favor and watch these sweet little SPARKLE girls! It can remind or teach us all a little TRUE SPARKLE meaning!
I enjoyed my short time as ”pageant mom/chaperone” this weekend and am so proud of our sweet Renee, but I’m so excited to be landing in DFW shortly to my BOYS! ?
TGIF Mom Queens!