Happy Martin Luther King Day Mom Queens!
I have a lot of interesting facts about me that unless you really know me or my family, you may not know.
One fact some people are surprised to find out is that I stem from a multi-racial family. Our family is very close. I have a BIG family! Which makes it crazy at times, but Oh My Gosh SO fun!
My cousins and I have always been close, as a teen, if one had a basketball or baseball game on a weekend 9 times out of 10, my brother and I were there and vice versa. Our weekends were filled with family. Heck, there was so many of us, there was bound to be a birthday party at least every other weekend. So we were always together. They were also our saving grace and support when my family was going through some very hard and dark times. That’s what family is for. The good, the bad, the laughs and the tears right? Until the end.
We even used to do our family trips together, gosh my cousins and I still make jokes of those times! Once we were camping and a few of my cousins and I were playing Othello. It’s a board game with black and white pieces. One of our younger cousins Matt was watching a few of us play and he was trying to learn the game. He asked us, “Why are you black and why is she white?” Ahhh!!!! Ummmm??
We just looked at each other and both called out at the same time “Ummm… Mom… Matt has a question for you!” But… He meant the board game pieces not our skin color! Lol! We still joke about some of these times between ourselves… (and give Matt a hard time! ;)-) We’re that kind of family. Lol.
I’m smiling as I type this, because gosh, I’m so thankful for being exposed to so much MORE growing up and having my family as my support. I may have been poor in many ways growing up but gosh I was RICH in the things that mattered.
The good, the bad, the hard times, and experiences that MADE me. Yea, it wasn’t maybe fun or easy having to explain some things about me or my family that weren’t “normal” or “common” to others. I’m referring to A LOT more than just this simple fun fact now.
I’ve been through a lot in my life. But those things are the all the things that make me the person I AM. So even though they sucked going through, It’s made me develop some of my greatest qualities.
Strength, Forgiveness, Compassion, and GRIT.
I’ve been judged a MILLION times over in the SPARKLE world as a pageant titleholder or contestant. I’ve been Judged a MILLION times over in the SPICE world as a mom and wife! Gosh, way more times than I can count. The SPICE world can have way more critics than the sparkling world! Moms and wives can have a tendency to think their an expert on the way THEY do things. I’ve been judged a MILLION times over on my own STRENGTH … beauty and health, my appearance.
I know some probably read my blog or scroll through my feed and maybe think, I’m lucky and blessed. Truth is I am. I’ve got a great life. But it hasn’t always BEEN that way. I’m living my over the rainbow NOW. That’s what you see. The lights at the end of the tunnel. Truth is I’ve been through so much and I’ve worked my !SS off to be the person I am, to have the life I do.
Last year I went around speaking at Boys and Girls Clubs all over America and the first thing I started with was I asked them to tell me what they SEE when they SEE me. I’m tall, blonde, nice clothes, hair done, put together. People judge BY ONLY WHAT THEY SEE. They all may have been subconsciously judging me and not even knowing. Little did they know my history and past that I was going to share with them didn’t MATCH what they SAW. I may have not had much of their respect when I walked in the room, but when I left I had ALL of their respect because the JUDGEMENT they were automatically placing on me only by what THEY SAW were completely gone by learning the EXPERIENCES that made me the person I am. They respected the good that came from the bad.
Every one of us gets judged because of the things that others DON’T KNOW. I myself have been there on both ends. We’re human. Sometimes you can’t help it.
Gosh as a mom of a son with some special needs, I even see my own son battle his own way by standing up for his own differences. THIS SUCKS! This is when judgment hurts, when hate and ignorance of others hurt.
So today I share one of my favorite MLK quotes. Reminding myself of all the GOOD. The BAD, That IAM thankful for that inspired growth and characteristics IN ME that I’m most proud of. That my kids can learn and be inspired by.
Heck, I’ve been asked a million times over how I could forgive someone for this or for that when it comes to things I experience now in my adult life, that most people would just turn their head and just walk away maybe. The reality is, I’ve been through and forgave for far worse. MY experiences and the people that supported me through them gave me the strength, forgiveness, compassion, and GRIT to be able to focus on the good.
Happy Monday Mom Queens.
Choosing Love! May you find the good in the bad no matter SMALL or BIG moments in your days this week!
Happy Martin Luther King Day!