Yesterday was a tough a day. We’ve been quietly trying to figure somethings out about my oldest son, Trae, that has some special needs. On top of everything thats been going on, some salt was thrown in our open wounds per say that I wanted to not directly expose my son but share just HOW rejection has FUELED me as a Mom.
It’s one thing to process rejection on your own. I can be hit a million times and all the word “No” or “You’re not good enough” has ever done is FUEL the fire within me. It gives me the passion and energy to prove that person wrong. That they will regret ever adding a negative notch on my negativity rope, you know we ALL carry one!
BUT when it comes to my kids, my sons, I tread lightly. I sit back, ponder on it a bit, let it absorb because I have a lot more at stake… their pride. Their spirit. Gosh mommin’ isn’t easy. For real!
In the past 7 years, we’ve gone through quite a journey of rejection, unanswered questions, and unanswered prayers. We ALWAYS know it could be worse, trust me! BUT NOT ONE TIME HAVE I Ever felt my son Labeled or segregated or truly with “Special Needs”, never. We, nor no one that truly knows him, would see him as so. He’s just not.
As a mom, I can’t help to share this today, I debated it back and forth, but it’s my way to release, create some more energy for FUEL, and to share with other moms to NEVER ACCEPT REJECTION when it comes to our babies. I know we all are faced with difficult parenting moments.
You see I know my oldest son is a difficult case when it comes to his neurological and academic needs. But never has The DOZENS and DOZENS of test, therapy programs, specials assistance programs, doctors, specialist, neurologist, what have you, have made me FEEL with the way the 4 words made me feel yesterday!
“A Kid Like Trae”!
Now there may have been a smooth transition explaining but this is all my mom brain heard. WTH is that supposed to mean?!
NEVER ACCEPT REJECTION FOR YOUR BABIES. If I accepted what the first doctor tried to diagnose Trae with 5 years ago, then the doctor after that, nor the next specialist, we wouldn’t have the answers, improvements, or assistance we have now. Now I know I’m not the smartest, I didn’t go to medical school or specialize in special education assistance but what I do know is my son and I know what he is NOT.
The one thing he is not is a quitter. Nor am I. So do we accept rejection, absolute not?
REJECTION IS OUR FUEL!
“A Kid Like Trae” I’m still trying to process what that means exactly.
My son doesn’t read my blogs, Thank Gosh! Maybe one day he will. When he does I hope he’ll have kids of his own so he understands the PUSH, PASSION, and FUEL that sets my soul ON FIRE! MY kids!
They say “find what sets your soul on fire”. Well, I know what sets mine on fire, its someone telling me NO and DOUBLING that in the direction of my boys. I know I can’t be the only one so that is why I wanted to share.
I know that ONE day when maybe he does read this, he’ll appreciate the fight I’ll take for him. He’ll know how much I hurt for him, how much I FEEL for him, and how much I will do ANYTHING IT TAKES for us to help him prove what a “Kid Like Trae” CAN do. You know over the past 7 years I’ve heard hundreds of things my son supposedly can’t do from neurologist to educational diagnosticians, but it doesn’t take an educated guess to figure out the one thing he’s best at: PROVING THOSE LIMITATIONS WRONG.
Just like his mom. Thank You for being by ear today Mom Queens. WE ALL go through the ups and downs of parenting, and gosh it can be tough but the greatest thing I think we can do for our kids is to never let them settle for rejection.
A BIG HUG (AND FIST PUMP) TO ALL YOU TOUGH MOMS OUT THERE!
Happy Saturday Mom Queens!