We often work on our physical appearance and diet when it comes to health but we forget about how important our mental health impacts us. We lift weights, exercise, eat right, we’re always worried so much about our physical appearance. So for a little “STRENGTH” I wanted to share one of my latest discoveries for some mind muscles!
I recently went to a parenting seminar that was labeled after the speakers book “Raising a social kid in an isolated world”, the impact of the seminar was as powerful as the title! The speaker was a local psychologist that specializes in adolescents. His name was Dr. Kenneth Wilgus, and I am now a HUGE fan. He had SO many valid points, I REALLY enjoyed it! By the time I got to my car, I had his podcasts and his latest book already downloaded.
I’m excited to start his latest book: FEEDING THE MOUTH THAT BITES YOU. I haven’t started his book, but I have started his podcasts and I really enjoy them. SO many valid points. I appreciated the fact he had experience working with kids with “differences” like mine. I walked away learning so much about my son. SO much about ME. SO MUCH about people. It really brought some self awareness and it has really helped my mental strength.
He mentions so many factors that influence our current mental strength, many that have to deal with living in a technology driven social world not a physical social world. In his seminar he mentioned some facts: Did you know that the more time you spend on social media the MORE anxious you are. The lower self- esteem you have. The more coping mechanisms and “social” skills you lose! He had SO many VERY valid points.
I’m active on social media. So I was paying close attention. I don’t typically scroll through social media allot, I post, but seldom scroll. I just don’t find a lot of time in my schedule, well honestly my ADD kicks in and I remember, “Oh gosh the laundry”, or oh gosh, “I forgot …”. I’m just normally all over the place and multi-tasking, so I snap a pic, post, set my phone down and run to the next task, which is probably why I misspell so much! I’m always in a hurry (which that too I need to work on, I know, that was in the seminar too).
That night I sat down and purposely scrolled. I can’t even count how many self images one person can post in ONE random day let alone week. So I grabbed my son’s devices, pulled up his “You tube” and his friends texts. SAME. Now I do post a selfie here and there, but several a day! Before you knew it I was watching these 3 kids live a normal “day in THEIR life”, really doing nothing, BUT 20 minutes went by and I was STILL watching. WHY? I shook myself out of la-la land and it made me realize, how strong his messages are with his technology reference to my kids, to me. No wonder my 10 yr old is SO worried if his hair looks funny if its not styled perfect, EVERY morning. If he’s not wearing the “coolest” shoes. THE MORE TIME HE SPENDS on devices, the more he worries, the more he compares.
We invest so much in our physical appearance, myself included, but I wanted to share how nice it has been to work on the awareness of this subject that makes SUCH an impact on our health. Just being aware. Working on my greatest strength, my mental state. Because honestly I can RUN until my feet fall off on a treadmill, but if I don’t THINK I look “good” or I’m not “Mentally Satisfied” with my workout, then it really doesn’t matter how far I run. I can run forever, but I’m never going to FEEL like its good enough if my mind isn’t happy with it, or my running app is telling me its not enough, or someone else snapping a selfie that day ran a mile more. I’m not ever going to be satisfied if If my mind is not mentally strong enough to TELL my body it FEELS or looks good.
I hope you pick up a podcast you enjoy, pick up a book you’ve been wanting to start, run around outside with your kids, or are working in some way to strengthen your MIND… because as I’ve been discovering, sometimes… a healthy mind TRUMPS a hot body!