Have you ever had mom guilt? I was until today.
January is a struggle for me. Making resolutions that I thought long and hard about that I am anxious to see the results from. January is when my will power is truly tested.
Lately, I’ve had some guilt from daily decisions I’ve made to stay committed to my change. I’m the kind of person that has a guilty conscious even when I’m not guilty, I can’t help but feel bad if my decisions do not appease everyone. So I can’t help but to have some guilt, and some mom guilt.
Guilt like:
*Hard choices of setting some boundaries and creating some distance.
*Saying no to a lot of things to stay committed to the things I need to prioritize: my marriage, my family, my passion, career, and my gym goals.
Small stuff too that can bring on mom guilt:
*Like being sad my boys had to go back to school today. I really enjoyed having them with me. (well, except the trips to the grocery store with them ;)-).
*Even allowing my kids to eat way to much junk when I really should have said no to that extra bowl of ice cream… for breakfast!
*Or let them play too many video games at the end of the night when they’ve already played too much during the day. Sometimes I feel like, “gosh, I’m a bad mom!”
*Or even worse: have you ever felt guilty because sometimes you get jealous of your husbands time… with the kids?!
I feel horrible and get hard on myself because of the guilt, the mom guilt. For making the decision that was best for me at that particular time.
WHY do I do this? Why do we all do this?
Truth is, I would be a bad wife IF I didn’t want my husbands time and attention. I would be a “bad mom” IF I didn’t let me kids live a little. I would be miserable to be around if I didn’t have those moments of silence alone when they were playing video games too long. I’d be a BAD ME and NOT see the changes I want by making these hard choices I have to make to stick to my resolutions for me and for my family.
Why do I feel guilty for making choices that make ME happy at the moment or in the future? Mom guilt.. guilt in general…Why?
Today I went to sculptflo hot yoga and gosh it was good! Good for the body and for my mind. Good for my conscious on this topic.
Today’s yoga talk was STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF. Accepting YOUR happy. It’s funny how the universe has a tendency to place you where you need to be at the moment.
Staying true to myself, giving less “cares” if my decision doesn’t appease everyone. I need to OWN MY HAPPY!
Staying true to ourselves. OWNING OUR happy because in reality who are we trying to please? Are you living to please your Instagram feed or the person that’s looking back to you in the mirror? Are you living to please other moms or acquaintances or your own family? Being happy and proud of the things that make ME happy and OWNING IT.
If you’ve felt that way lately, like me, Mom Queens take that guilt and stomp on it! “Ain’t no one happy if momma ain’t happy” anyway right?
So maybe I’ll let my kids skip school tomorrow to sleep in one more time and have those morning snuggles… or maybe not… it’s a grocery shopping day! ?
Happy Tuesday Mom Queens