They say nothing GREAT or life changing happens inside of our comforts zones…
I’m beginning to think They are 110% correct.
Last December I started the long process of writing a book.
Little ol’ me!
Someone who misspells about 60% of my text messages and whose emails consist of so many grammatical errors my elementary school’s teachers would probably cry…
I’m always so pressed for time and always in a hurry I never stop to care enough to revise and correct (thank goodness for apps like grammarly!). Honestly though, half the time unless my app or spell check doesn’t highlight it, I would never even notice. Seriously though, I’ve just never been ”great” at school, reading, spelling and grammar, or all things really that include using that strong left side of your brain. You know the side that’s for logic, knowledge, and well frankly all things “smart” and intellectual thinkers use side. My right side drives me. It’s always carried me. I’m 110% creative, imaginative, think out side of the box, all over the place, the visual learning side. The dreamer kind, the visionary kind. (Now you know where my kiddos get it from ;)-) Thank goodness for youtube videos because now I can pretty much visually learn anything I want! Lol, kidding, but so not kidding!
Another thing I’ve really never been good with is … opening up. Like at all. There’s very few people in my life that really know all of me, that I let in. Very few people in my life know me in-depth, my past, and why I am the way I am. I have always trusted little and kept my distance. There’s reasons for that off course, my life and journey. All the things that make me.
Why I’m not a hugger unless I’ve had far too much wine. Why I keep people at a distance as a guard. The reasons why I hustle the way I do and why my delivery probably isn’t always the softest approach. They are the reasons also why I raise my boys the way I do. So much comes from facing all this.
In the past I was always OK with that, I’ve been pretty independent on my own, so it never bothered me in the past. These past two years though it’s like something has changed and I started growing more into who I am, more comfortable with me and the journey that makes me. More accepting of myself. It’s been a process over the last several years, and it hasn’t been easy. Talk about not easy in this area is the whole writing a ”book” process! Wow, has this pushed me even more out of my comfort zone than ever. This process has made me relive some of my insecurities and ugly past. It’s also opened up old wounds I never really had the opportunity to individually heal from. Because I hid them, I was a closed book.
So yes, a book scared the bananas out of me! Starting this blog was a stepping stone for practice and a way to discover my voice. The method of writing and opening up while sharing the things I love most; health and beauty tricks, mom tips, and pageant advice from my many years and success. It’s also been a great sense of reassurance that step by step; maybe I CAN do this. It’s helped make me realize I have a voice, a story, and a sense of security now in the acceptance of my flaws (As my book refers to it as “I’ve owned my BASIC B!tch!”
Most importantly it’s made me discover that my JOURNEY IS PRETTY DARN UNIQUE! From the horrible things I’ve endured to my greatest accomplishments. I have a pretty crazy story that’s created some pretty cool advice and wisdom through the things I’ve got to live through. The things I’ve accomplished. The hard times that gave me my strength and greatest qualities to be able to have the grit to achieve the things I have.
I’ve realized these things should not be buried and my achievements should not be forgotten nor go to waste. With the help of Grammarly, my forgiving female audience, and my excellent book babe team, I have not just stepped out of my box but have vaulted out of that damn box! Lol, Watch our world.
Now I know this could be an utter fail, but I’m willing to chance it. It’s been a lot of hard work, and a heck of a lot of GROWTH in the process. It’s something that has completely pushed me out of my comfort zone entirely, and if THEY are right I pray leads to success and a future of empowering and inspiring from my journey. We shall see. Until then I get on my knees and pray daily that this risk, this stepping out of my comfort zone, will lead to something GREAT and not just for me.
Just like in the SPARKLE world, Nothing great happens in a comfort zone. A great example of this is I have always pushed myself to compete in uncomfortable circumstances. When I could grow and where there was risk. With extremely high numbers of contestants, great competitors, and stakes. I wouldn’t sign up for an easy win, ever. So you would think when I announced my first ever at large position if Sparkle haters really did their homework, they would know to respect this was my very first in 22 yrs.
I never went at large before, if anything I far exceeded the levels of a great competitor in my days. This unknown made me uncomfortable. I was intimidated, afraid of what people would say, how I would promote and serve my title with pride, so many things I thought about that weighed my decision. I remember when I announced I was competing, OMG girls are mean! Let me rephrase that, insecure girls are mean. Girls that want to hate on another for having more success. Girls that haven’t been in the arena of succeeding under stake worthy ccompetition seemed to be the ones with an opinion.
Now I don’t sit there and scroll very often through social media feed, I’ve said that a gazillion times over, but the screen shots my friends were sending me of peoples comments and thoughts. Wow. Everyone always has something to say don’t they? OMG. These are supposed to be girls, “WOMEN”, that are supposed to be encouraging and role models … Wow! Comments of other women they don’t even know. Heck, most I’ve never met in my life in person and if I ever did, trust me … they don’t know me. Half of my friends barely do as I mentioned above lol. Distance remember. ;)-
All jokes aside, I was pretty amazed. One, that people cared and Two, I really didn’t understand why if they were busy living their own lives they had an opinion. BUT when I looked at all the comments people screen shooting me and sending my way: All Glass Houses, Shame.
Did it add to my insecurities if I made the right choice stepping out of my comfort zone to my first ever at large title? Absolutely. I’m not going to lie. But like I’ve mentioned before all it did is was act as fuel to my fire. I was completely out of my comfort zone.
Look what happened in the long run… I ended up winning my first International and National title. An example where it paid to step out of my comfort zone!
Great things happen out of our comfort zones, that is where we discover more about ourselves and that is where we grow.
In our lives through our marriages, friendships, careers, passions, etc. in every direction, it’s so easy to get complacent, comfortable, and set in our daily routines.
Mom Queens, I encourage you to step out of the box into something new because that’s where the GREAT things happen. That’s where your pushed and learn even more GREAT things about YOU!
Last night I created my book flyers for my first ever (Let me just scream for a minute, eekk!!) … RED CARPET book event!
The week before I turned in my final draft for copy edit and copy right. Next week I have final lay out edit!! We are T-30 from going into PRINTING! Things just got REAL around here, and it scares the bananas out of me!!!
But as they say NOTHING GREAT comes from within our comfort zones right…. fearfully praying for great.
I Just got my Publishing Date Of Jan 9, 2020! Release date of December 15, 2019 with Pre-sales Available this November!! Eek!!! It’s getting really uncomfortable up in here!!!
Happy Tuesday Mom Queens! Whether it’s grabbing those sparkle heels, those running shoes, or those knee high boots… step out of those comfort zones Queens! What have you got to lose. Nothing but a chance to grow.