This past weekend I attended the Rachel Hollis RISE conference and it was really impressive!
I’ve never attended a women’s conference before and what a way to start.
I’m a huge Rachel Fan and a big women empowerment kind of gal, so since her first RISE tour that was not offered in Dallas, I knew if she came I was going to be one of the first to get tickets no matter what.
I did go to her movie recap of the RISE tour so I did see what her first conference was about and all the work it took into preparing it as well as the behind the scenes. I loved the movie! So I waited anxiously for her to get to Dallas.
Off course I went with a little girl gang of mine lol. It’s not often you won’t see me without one. A few of my mom-preneur girlfriends and I went to see the movie with, Jessica and Robyn, and off course a few of my mom-preneur friends that when I told them about the movie and explained how much they HAVE to come with for the conference! PS: Jen- Thanks for always jumping on board with me girl, even when I know it’s out of your comfort zone. First the Pageant world, then RISE, oh boy you should be scared of what’s next! ?Lol Just Kidding Girl! Thanks for always giving it a go!
Anyway, I didn’t know what to expect but hey it’s Rachel Hollis, I’ve read her books, followed the first RISE, and saw the movie so my expectations were high! So I’m not going to lie when they did the same ”activities” as last year’s RISE tour, ie: Stand for Sister, with just a few changes I have to say I was a TINY bit disappointed, not much though. I thought they would change it up, do something even more bigger, even more touching (but that would be hard to find because the activity hits home and hits the heart and is very impactful) but I’m just not gonna lie I was just expecting something different since a lot of her following attend numerous of her shows and travel to follow her, heck there were girls there that have attended every one of her conferences since she started in hotel ballrooms.
Me, I just did the movie RISE recap and it was impactful then and sitting through it it wasn’t as impactful as I knew the routine, but when I stood for a sister that had the boxes checked that she attempted suicide and had been raped, it got real and impactful really quick being in that room. It also hit home on how many boxes I myself had to check.
For those of you that don’t know Stand For Your Sister is the first days activity. It’s about dealing with your past. They give you a checklist and point out that in order to own your future you need to own your past.
It’s a checklist with a list of horrible life things that women may have dealt with in their past: losing a loved one, abuse of all forms, rape, hating the way they look, using food as a coping mechanism, abusing alcohol to feel better, abusing persecrption drugs to forget about their problems for just a minute, having sex with someone just to feel loved for a brief moment, the list is endless! The way they read is blunt, hurtful and a harsh realization of how screwed up we can be, but by the end of the activity you realize how screwed up WE ALL ARE, and that we are NOT alone!
Disclosing these Skelton’s is something NONE of us WANT to do. Sometimes it’s things we haven’t even admitted to our own selves. So you check yours off, they have you fold it several different times, everyone’s looks the same. Then you pass to a person next to you, then you pass that one, then you pass that one, then you pass that one. You keep passing and passing until everyone has no freaking CLUE where and who’s form they have there is no possible way anyone could tell who’s is whose.
By the dozenth time you have no idea who’s you have or where yours is in the arena full of women and they ask you to open your new sheet. We as women have a hard time dealing with our own things and past but no problem always helping another so they ask you to stand up for every check mark on the list you have in front of you as they singly read off one by one. Stand Up for your anonymous Sister. The amount of people that stand for things you deal with, that scare you, that you don’t want to admit or face yourself, are shocking!
The activity really makes you feel that you ARE not alone! That there’s others out there just like you, feeling and dealing with the same. Makes you realize we all have STUFF. We all have baggage and Skelton’s and things were trying to heal from.
Rachel had two guest speakers, Trent Shelton and Jen Hatmaker, both authors and bot motivational speakers. Jen’s hour speech was about women supporting women and her elephant reference and story was PHENOMENAL. She closed with an image of an heard of women elephants. She explained the story behind it that when a woman elephant gives birth every women in the heard back up forming a circle of protection around her. Stomping and kicking up sand to steer away predators from smell and sight. Then when she does they all horn up and trumpet in unison. The story was pretty darn phenomenal and moving! Explaining on what an example for women. That when one is hurt or needs to be in the middle to gain her strength they should stay as long as that sister needs with her sisters supporting her and celebrating her triumphs as well. When she’s done if another sister needs to be in the center that we should back up and support her and lift her in strength. Her visuals and stories were amazing and she brought a great sisterly vibe to the room.
Trent’s speech had a lot of different points. I’m a big Trent fan as well, I love his social media clips and enjoy hearing him talk. I feel he has a very powerful and effective delivery. I enjoy his style and the direct punch of power of his catchy powerful mantras he chooses to use and ccreate. By far he was my favorite speaker over the weekend. He focused on the how to use the information everyone received and acty out it to USE im the real world after the seminar! Which unless you do, it would be complete waist of time and money unless you use the tools and insight they provided in the real world AFTER the weekend.
After the first day of owning your past the second day was all about OWNING YOUR FUTURE! Now I don’t attend the second day I have my ticket to a friend of mine to attended because I wasn’t going to miss picking my boys up from over night camp several hours away after not seeing or talking to them for a week! No way, momma duty trumps! I wanted to SEE their faces at pick up. I was told though from my girlfriends that attended the first day it was the same as the previous RISE and the reviews, they went over mantras, key words and activities to lift your spirit, and really stressed owning your future by I’m your thoughts and claiming in your heart that you are enough to achieve your dreams.
To me any conference is about what YOU can wall away with. I learned a lot about myself from RISE. Being in a room of 7,000 women that all went through some of the same hell and feel some of the same things, I realized what a survivor I really am. How strong I am.
When I was driving home from RISE I made notes on some self discovery, things I finally realized about myself:
I realized I’m a do’er. A get her doner. That I’m going to survive NO matter what, because I have a warriors resilience.
That as much as you tell me no or no matter how badly I’m hurt or scar, I’m going to keep fighting.
That if you even say the words I can’t… Or maybe this door or opportunity isn’t for you… Well guess what to someone like me… That’s FUEL.
Fuel for me to use every thing and use every ounce of my being to prove you wrong or do even better!
I realized I have these pretty awesome qualities because of some of the horrible things I’ve been through and that if I didn’t go through them I wouldn’t be possess these ambitious skills. I never let them break me.
Then I went through the instances in by mind that gave me these warrior skills and then some of the things in my life that I’ve used those skills through:
I Lost beauty pageants FOR YEARS… they told me I wasn’t pretty enough or whatever their reason was they didn’t choose me well guess what I tried and tried again until I PROVED them wrong… If I didn’t win their title, I won something even better!
I didn’t finish dental hygiene school because some idiot professor told me it may not be right for me, I believed her for a second and actually never technically finished college just shy of graduating because but guess what…
Ive started 3 companies didn’t know a freaking thing about the industry or what I was doing but I figured it out. I hustled my way through each and now an the proud owner of a real estate brokerage, a boutique, and because of my hussle by family owns several million dollars of real estate. I didn”t fail them and am still going and growing each one.
I’m a do’er. A you tell me no’er and I’m gonna set your world on fire and destroy the ceiling you just placed over my head kind of girl.
Listen their no key there’s no hidden secret I learned at RISE but what I did learn is more about ME and the fact that I’m not alone.
I hear over and over again things on social media and mantras used in the conference like ”you can not heal what you don’t reveal…bull crap! I’m all sorts of messed up… I’ve got stories I could tell for YEARS…. But choose not too because they don’t define ME! So it’s important to take what YOUneed out of conference like RISE.
But the fact is we’re all messed up, and most trying to hide our imperfections and that’s fine. What I realized most from RISE is that I am, a damn survivor! That I’ve always been! A scared woman that yeah maybe didn’t own her past but I’m sure the hell claiming my future and that I’m definitely NOT alone.
If your considering RISE 2020, I would definitely recommend it! I saw it was already announced and as soon as tickets go on sale, I’ll be getting mine! We can always learn more about ourselves and continue to grow!
If you didn’t get a chance to hi to RISE and are a Rachel Fan like me I hope this helps your decision to go for it next year!
Happy Thursday Mom Queens!