I spent the long holiday weekend last week with family and friends enjoying some days on the water, mornings fishing, evenings by the pool, and nights by the fire.
Going into the long holiday weekend I was anxious and excited. The weekend started off a little hectic and we had our moments here and there but in all in all it was nice. Nice to put my phone down too.
I posted on my story pictures of the kids jet skiing, tubing, fishing, and even me floating but I rarely had my phone in my hand all weekend. It was either inside left on the charger or connected to the boats bluetoooth playing music.
At the beginning of the weekend, I posted several times but as the weekend continued it faded, until a complete dull on Monday. When it comes to blogging, I blogged Friday and well it really didn’t even occur to me to blog again until Tuesday, unless the weekend would give me time to squeeze in one.
Tuesday then came and from parent-teacher conferences all day, my son having a sleepover friend all day, getting caught up on Mom Queen Boutique shipments, groceries, kids, etc.. there was little extra time in my day.
Life got in the way.
Then Wednesday came, Wednesday was my back to work Monday for the short week. We all know what that’s like being out of the office for a week. Playing catch up, time ran out once again.
Before I knew it 6 days went by and I hadn’t posted, blogged, and rarely tagged my boutique clothing in my story like I always do too.
Just when I was about to, my son got sick and we found ourselves in the hospital at 2 am for an all-nighter. Once again, life just got in the way. That’s what happens when your a mom right?
My husband asked what was wrong on Thursday. He noticed I haven’t blogged nor posted much at all. He asked if I was burnt out already. Jokingly he made the comment that I would lose followers. Lol. Funny thing is I did, just a few. That’s ok.
I told him I wasn’t burnt out, it’s just super busy the first week the boys get out of school along with the holiday. Being in property management the month end as well is busy. Then with Trae getting sick, I was just short on time. I started really getting down on myself for not blogging. Getting down on myself led me into a funk.
I realized I started putting so much pressure on myself to blog consistently for the last 8 months, that I almost had a guilty feeling.
Thursday came and I had another boutique owner sneak into my private group to solicit my private members by messenger. One of my Mom Queens brought it to my attention, Ahhhh…. the nerve of some people is pretty shocking. Karma. That’s my answer to someone success and future when they act like a snake, leave it karma and walk away.
After now stressing about this and the nerve of some people, I had to remind myself WHY I STARTED the blog and WHY I started my boutique. For FUN. For my enjoyment!
I, of course, removed the crazy from my private group and decided to let karma handle that one. But in reality I think the sequence of these events is what I needed to remind myself over and over again, WHY I started.
This is supposed to be fun for me. I’m not in it to compete, I’m not in it to be the biggest, I’m not in it for LIKES, followers, my sole livelihood, or a silly status.
Do I want to grow it, well Yes. Do I want to be successful, well Yes. I can’t see wasting time on anything you don’t love or want to grow. But I also need to chill sometimes. Somewhere there is a balance.
I blog because I enjoy it, and I boutique because I absolutely love it!
Someone like me always has to have a side ME in their life. Just like in pageants, something to give me an extra HAPPY OUTLET! It’s not supposed to add more stress. It’s supposed to relieve stress.
So I’ve had to remind myself to chill. I apologize if I wasn’t on TOP of things but sometimes I think we need a break from things to remind us of our WHY. That whole absence makes the heart grow fonder thing.
A Type A personality like mine can have a tendency to do just that, turn something fun into stress. I need to remind myself of my WHY and to let it be on my time, SO I KEEP the fun in it.
As moms I think we can do this to our kids too, have them enter a sport because they want too. Then next thing you know you’ve added extra lessons, extra this and that, and you start to push them to succeed in their passion. Some times doing this over time can actually push them the opposite direction and bleed their FUN, their why, from the activity.
In pageants, I KNOW I’ve done this in the past. Getting so focused in preparation that I put so much stress on myself to be the best version of myself that it even steers me away from the gym or my WHY after competition. I’ve even done it through my reigns as well. Put so much pressure on myself to make the very best of it I leave no time to really enjoy the fun it’s supposed to be.
I know a lot of us entrepreneurs, moms, sparkle girls, heck women in general do this.
I even did this preparing for that long family holiday weekend. I put so much pressure on everything being perfect and ”right” for all to have fun that I become an utter stress ball that’s not any fun to be around.
Having a break from things, letting life happen, reminds us exactly of our own WHY’S. SOMETIMES IT IS EXACTLY WHAT WE NEED TO REFRESH!
Have you ever done this? I’m sure we all have in some way or another.
Make sure you take a break when life happens to remind yourself of YOUR WHY so the pressure we put on ourselves doesn’t steal our JOY!
Life’s supposed to be fun. The things we chose to be involved in are supposed to joyful. This is what I learned and reminded myself these past 2 weeks. Sorry about my absence, but it was needed as a simple reminder for…me.
Don’t ever lose your WHY.
Happy Monday Mom Queens!