A little SPARKLE to get through the rest of the week.
When I was giving up my Mrs. International crown, I was asked to create and give a contestant orientation speech. I wanted to create an IMPACTFUL one. I wanted to remind the contestants of 2 VERY important factors I feel contestants tend to forget when competing. I had SO many directors and contestants comment on what an amazing speech it was! I was very proud because I really tried to be creative and impactful. I worked on it for a few weeks so I was happy everyone enjoyed it.
I’ve been asked to share a few key points from that speech, and I thought it would be great to share with ALL my Sparkle Friends as they get ready for 2019 competitions. But now I want to KICK myself because I can NOT locate the file! Argh!
In my speech I wanted to get a few key points across to the contestants:
- That it is an actual job, time consuming, and more than the glamour they see from the outside, any title is allot of work.
- That they ALL deserved to be there and to congratulate them
- To get them to FEEL and realize the harsh realization that they are NOT the only one in the room
I also did NOT want it to be BORING! I think some of the best speeches are those that people can relate to and that get the audience involved.
I began with how many appearances, days I traveled, the work behind the scenes you DON’T see, the requirements, the expectations, the reality that it can take a toll on your family and career. BUT I didn’t want to scare them, because it is one of the MOST REWARDING experiences as well. So after 5 minutes or so of really giving them a feeling of my year. I made it about them. About each of them. I asked them to play a game with me. Now these are Mrs. so they could ALL relate. Off course they all agreed, after all they wanted my job, right? After I made them all warm and fuzzy and excited for the week, I wanted to indirectly send a harsh but honest realization that I thought if I stressed, if it came from me, it would help set the tone for the week as a key reminder for when the crowning actually did happen.
I asked them a series of 3-4 questions, if their answer was YES to please stand and REMAIN standing. Here were some my questions:
- How many of you have been working out twice or three times a day the last few months to prepare for this competition? Please stand
- How many of you have made over a dozen appearances promoting your platform and your state/regional title in the last month? Please stand
- How many of you have a TRUE personal connection to your platform and THIS is the passion that drives your presence here? Please stand
- How many of you feel like you have spent a small fortune on preparing for this week? Please stand
- How many of your families are routing for you and BELIEVE that their Mommy or Wife should BE crowned? Please stand
By the time I asked my first series of questions they were ALL standing, I think I only got to 3. As they were standing, I CONGRATULATED them for getting this far! Stressed how much work it was just be there! Then I asked them to take a look around…
I WANTED THEM TO VISUALLY SEE THAT EVERY GIRL IN THAT ROOM WAS STANDING BECAUSE THEY “DESERVED” TO BE THERE JUST AS MUCH AS THEY WERE!
YOUR NOT THE ONLY ONE SISTER!
Then I asked them to look and tell the girls ALL around them, to their left and right, tell EACH GIRL “Great Job! Congratulations! I AM PROUD OF YOU!”
This brought them realization that they were not the only one in the room, and most importantly a little more respect for EVERY girl around them.
When they finished congratulating each other and laughing a bit. I asked them another series of 3 questions. This time if the answer was YES to please SIT. Here were my questions:
- How many of you work full time jobs? Please sit.
- How many of you have children under 5? That you would be missing special milestones in their lives, like a first step, a first day of kinder, the first soccer goal that moms SHOULD be at? Please sit.
- How many of you are strongly networked in an organization that supports your platform that you worked SO hard to gain their trust that if your not present this year for them, there is a chance you will lose their reliable respect they have for you and the support you bring them? Please sit
- How many of you have a spouse that ENJOYS falling asleep and waking up to you every day? Please sit.
Reality set in, pretty quick. They were all sitting. At this point, I reminded to them:
- Do you remember all those women that were just standing WITH YOU? DON’T LET THEM DOWN!
- That girl that you just hugged you or shook your hand? DON’T LET HER DOWN!
- BE that DESERVING GIRL that was standing with all the rest.
DON’T USE ANY OF THESE EXCUSES FOR NOT MAKING THE MOST OF YOUR JOURNEY! BECAUSE IF YOU WERE TO BE THAT BLESSED ONE TO WIN AND NOT MAKE THE MOST OF IT… SHE MAY HAVE. Remember this. THIS is the truth.
When we enter pageants we ALL know what were signing up for. We know the expectations. Don’t let your sister, the staff, or yourself down.
I can’t even count how many times I have heard the phrases:
“She should have won, “I deserve to win”, “I did yada, yada, yada”
Like ever other girl did absolutely NOTHING and flying off pure luck! No. Sorry. When I hear this it drives me crazy. Just as much as seeing a girl you were REALLY rooting for to win, win, then watch her reign be a little disappointing. Almost like you expected more from her. Don’t be that girl, cause the reality is YOUR NOT ALONE SISTER.
We all know pageants are SO subjective. Its a crap shoot, really! You never know what the outcome will be even if you think you do. All you CAN do is:
SPARKLE! For YOU, for your FAMILY, for your PLATFORM, For all your HARD WORK, and for your SPARKLE SISTER… and let the dice roll!
Happy Wednesday Mom Queens